6 Ways to Put Your Best Self Forward


Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Nobody can say for certain exactly how much body language influences a first impression, but some research indicates it might be as high as 90% responsible for the first impression you create.  Follow these six ways to put your best self forward— without saying a word.

Do: Hold Your Chin. "It's something we see powerful people do—Hillary Clinton, Steve Jobs on the cover of his biography. It's a thinking pose, a gesture that says, 'When times are tough, I'm going to come up with the solution.'"

Don't: Pull in Your Lips. "Sucking in your lips until they're hidden in your mouth says you're holding something back. When Anthony Weiner said his Twitter account had been hacked, he pulled in his lips. So did A-Rod when he talked about using banned substances. I see many people do it when they're trying to hide an emotion too uncomfortable to share."

Do: Steeple Your Fingers. "Put fingertips to fingertips to increase your authority. I call it steepling. Oprah steeples, as does Donald Trump just before he says 'You're fired.' President Obama does a modified steeple, like he's holding an invisible basketball, which suggests compassion."

Don't: Lose Track of Your Tilt. "Never share valuable information with your head tilted—it makes it seem as if you don't stand behind it. If you're just chatting and not divulging, feel free to tilt your head, but mind the direction: If you tilt to your right, you're seen as more attractive, and if you tilt to your left, you're viewed as more intelligent."

Do: Cross Your Arms. "You've heard that crossing your arms makes you look standoffish—which is true, if the person doesn't know you. But if you're among friends, cross away! It can help you figure out a problem, because the action uses both sides of your body, engaging both sides of your brain: the logical left and the creative right. Research shows that arm crossing makes us more likely to stay on a difficult task."

Don't: Wrinkle Your Nose. "I once worked with a gorgeous woman who couldn't get a guy to take her on a second date. After watching her interact with men, I spotted the problem: When she laughed, she wrinkled her nose, a universal sign of disgust. Her dates later told me they didn't think she liked them, but none could say why. She stopped wrinkling her nose—and is now happily married. That's the power of body language!"

This article was originally written by body language expert, Janine Drive. We shared it with you to help amp up gestures that win you respect and quiet those that give you away.

5 Natural Tips To Manage Winter Allergies

Don't let winter allergies like cedar pollen get you down! Peek our 5 natural tips to beat the sniffles below.

  1. Ginger is a natural antihistamine. To use as a natural allergy relief, make tea out of it with boiling water to help alleviate symptoms.
  2. Invest in a neti pot, a small “tea pot” that allows you to flush your nasal cavities with water. Best used in the shower, these devices do take a bit of practice. But neti pots are inexpensive and very effective.
  3. Grape seed extract is good to take when you have allergy symptoms in the wintertime and all year long. Grape seed extract, like red wine, contains flavonoids. Flavoinoids are helpful in calming any sniffle flair-ups.
  4. If you have access to a steam room at your local gym or recreation center, check it out. Steam has a way of removing allergens from your skin, nasal passages, and lungs.
  5. If you suffer from airborne allergies in warmer climates, close your windows and crank up the air conditioning.
Texas Hit Hard by Cedar Pollen Explosion - Natural Tips for Allergy Relief

Central Texas allergen levels for the week of 1/5/2014. Source:

The new year hasn't been so happy for many Texas residents as the Juniper family of flora, commonly referred to as "cedar," has unleashed pollen all over large swaths of Central and Southern Texas. A perfect combination of temperature and wind conditions have sent allergen counts to record highs, and since 90% of allergy sufferers feel the effects of cedar pollen, misery and Kleenex use is up there too.

But while some turn to the same over the counter medication to get them through the season, consumers are increasingly looking to natural solutions to either compliment and boost the effects of their daily regimen of medication, or to replace that medication altogether. Natural solutions are proving effective as they get to the root of allergy symptoms, or just address the allergies in new, more holistic ways to great success.

Lexi Hagenson, a Chicago-based licensed acupuncturist and certified herbalist, has several recommendations for fighting back against allergies, the natural way.

Firstshe recommends the use of a Neti Pot, which can be found in most health food stores. Just follow the directions on the package. "It's the most effective way to remove pollen, dust, environmental irritants and mucus from your sinuses, without causing dryness or rebound congestion often experienced from pharmaceutical decongestants." While it's not the most pleasant experience, nasal irrigation like with a Neti Pot soothes and protects nasal passages, something most allergy sufferers desperately need.

Second, she recommends weekly acupuncture treatments for a month or two. "This 3,000-year-old practice can remarkably improve quality of life for allergy sufferers, even those who don't see results from conventional anti-allergy medications," says Hagenson. Numerous scientific studies have shown that acupuncture is effective for addressing all manner of maladies, even if how it works isn't immediately clear to Western physicians. But adds Hagenson, "acupuncture works both locally by [alleviating] head, neck and facial symptoms, and throughout the body by promoting healthy circulation and decreasing areas of hypersensitivity and stagnation."

But finally, and perhaps most rapid-acting, Hagenson recommends the use of formulas based on Chinese Herbology, such as Rootology: Breathe Free. Not as well known in the U.S., Chinese Herbology is different than other natural allergy remedies, such as Homeopathy, Stinging Nettles, Quercetin, or herbal tinctures, because it starts working immediately, in about 20 minutes, on the same biological systems as Sudafed, but more gently and effectively. While Chinese formulas can vary, even when addressing the same ailment, Rootology's Breathe Free formula is made of 13 concentrated herbal extracts, each with specific functions as detailed on their website. Of the two most prevalent ingredients, Hagenson says, "xanthium fruit and magnolia flower are two extremely effective herbs for alleviating nasal symptoms like profuse nasal discharge and itchiness." She continues, "when taken regularly for a period of time, Rootology can actually help the sinus passageways work more efficiently." To those who may be skeptical, especially if they're not familiar with the herbs, Hagenson offers, "just give it a try! If after two or three doses you feel no change you can always quit with no harm done, especially with the thirty day guarantee. But I highly doubt there won't be a noticeable difference."

Dr. Joan Lehach, MD, a highly regarded allergist in New York City agrees. "I have been practicing Allergy and Clinical Immunology for over 25 years and I am really excited to recommend Rootology, a new all-natural product that really works. It immediately alleviates sneezing, nasal itch, congestion and rhinorrhea (runny nose) without side-effects. Rootology is first line in my practice."

With these tips, hopefully you'll find your way through cedar season, especially the natural way. 

You can find more information about Rootology:Breathe Free, including expert and customer testimonials and a description of exactly how it works at